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Many people know their love fantasy – the one fantasy that brings them supreme pleasure and leads them to orgasm.
Others experience sexual fantasies from time to time, but are unaware of that single fantasy whose content may change, while the relationships between the characters within it remain constant throughout life.

How can we discover our love fantasy?

The easiest and most comfortable way is usually through masturbation, where we give ourselves permission to fantasize freely – without restraints, shame, or inhibition. Everything is allowed!
There’s no such thing as a good or bad fantasy, no forbidden fantasies or fantasies that are a deviation — because fantasies are not actions.
Love fantasy is like a dream: we cannot choose it or control it.

Erotic books or pornographic films can also help us discover what arouses us most.
Some people become more aware of their fantasies specifically during sex with their partner.

It may take some time to uncover your love fantasy, especially if you’ve repressed it deep in your unconscious due to self-imposed prohibitions.
For example, violent fantasies may be sexually pleasurable to many people, but they might repress them because they feel uncomfortable bringing them into awareness or acknowledging them.
But with a little effort and patience, your love fantasy will emerge and give you the gift of your life:
not only will you be able to pleasure yourself more easily, not only will you get to know yourself and your partner better, this fantasy will also give you the gateway to falling in love and then to love that will last well into old age.