Love Fantasy Questionnaire

Stage 1: The Type of Relationship That Arouses You

(You may select more than one option throughout the questionnaire)

1. What kind of interpersonal dynamic excites you most in your fantasies? *Dominance and submission (Dom/Sub)Equal partnershipScenarios where you are watching from the sidelines Forbidden or socially charged relationships

2. What role do you usually take in your fantasies?  *The dominant (active) one he submissive (passive) oneThe observerThe role changes from one fantasy to another

3. Do your fantasies include more than two participants?  *AlwaysSometimesNever

4. How important is the element of power in your fantasies?  *Power is not important at all Power plays a moderate role Power is the central part of the fantasy

Stage 2: The Core Elements of Your Fantasy

5. What is the most arousing element in your fantasies?  *The moment a character gives themselves over to the other The experience of humiliation and powerThe feeling of being out of controlThe emotional connection that develops during the fantasy

6. Does this fantasy involve betrayal or sharing your partner with someone else?  *Yes, and it adds to the enjoyment Yes, but it also confuses meNo, that’s a red line for me

7. Do your fantasies tend to appear in specific contexts?  *Fantasies involving authority figures (teachers, bosses, etc.) Fantasies in unconventional or unusual locationsHistorical or fictional fantasies I don’t focus on the context

Stage 3: The Situation and Emotions Involved

8. What emotional range do you typically experience in this fantasy?  *Excitement and pleasureGuilt or shame Fear mixed with pleasureA sense of safety and connection Humiliation or desire for control Surrender and inner peace Pride and dominance

9. How does the dynamic of the fantasy usually unfold?  *Initial tension that develops into mutual desire Resistance that turns into enjoyment Immediate and relaxed submission Complete control by one side A situation that gradually builds

10. How does the main character in this fantasy typically respond?  *They lead and control everything that happens They begin unsure but eventually surrender They are drawn into the situation without any control They experience an internal struggle between resisting and wanting to surrender

Stage 4: How Your Love Fantasy Appears in Real Life

(Your love fantasy tends to reveal itself in your spontaneous interactions with others, when there’s no time for more complex thinking.)

11. In your everyday (non-sexual) relationships, what best describes your spontaneous dynamic with others?  *I tend to take the lead in group settings I usually submit and let others decide I tend to take a passive stance and stay on the sidelines My dynamic changes depending on the situation and the people involved

12. How do you react in real-life situations where you feel you've lost control?  *I try to regain control I let go and allow the situation to unfold I become passive and accept what happens It depends on the person and the interaction

13. How similar are your fantasies to your spontaneous relationship patterns in real life?  *Very similar – I behave the same way outside of sexuality Somewhat similar – depends on the context Very different – I don’t see a connection

Stage 5: Expanding the Repertoire

(The content of your love fantasy may change, but the relational dynamic between the characters tends to remain stable throughout life.)

14. Would you like to receive suggestions for new fantasies where the relationships stay the same but the content changes?  *Yes, I’d like to upgrade my ideasMaybe, depending on the suggestions No, I prefer to stay with my current fantasy

15. How interested are you in understanding the psychological meaning behind this fantasy?  *Very – I find it fascinatingA little – but I’m not looking to go deep I’d rather just enjoy the fantasy without analyzing it

16. Would you like help sharing this fantasy with your partner?  *I’ve already told themYes, I’d like tips on how to talk about it Maybe, if it’s discreet No, I prefer to keep my fantasies to myself

Stage 6: Statistics and Comparison with Others

17. How common do you think this fantasy is among others?  *Very rare – almost no one fantasizes like I do Average – I feel it’s not especially common Common – I believe many people share this fantasy

18. Would you like to see data showing how many people answered like you?  *Yes, I’d like to know I’m not alone Maybe, if the data is presented anonymouslyNo, I’m not looking to compare myself to others